1 – You Must Have a Powerful WHY to Achieve Your Goals
What is a powerful WHY? How can I have powerful WHY’s? Why do we need powerful WHY’s? Have you ever had a goal you didn’t achieve? I sure have. Have you ever wondered why you didn’t achieve it? Have you ever achieved a goal and asked yourself why you achieved it? Answering these questions will allow us to discover those powerful WHY’s we need to succeed. So what are your powerful WHY’s?
Those powerful WHY’s are different for every person. Your powerful WHY may not be a powerful WHY for another person. For example, one powerful WHY for me was to master the art of discipline by going through the body transformation process.
I know you have to discipline yourself to do a lot of things you may not want to do throughout this journey. I realized that if I can discipline myself to be successful in this arena, I can be successful in others as well.
This may be a powerful WHY for me, but not for another person. Being disciplined may not be important to them as getting the physique they want. To get to your powerful WHY’s, you must spend a few minutes jotting down all the reasons why you want to do this.
Why are you willing to do certain things to get it? Once you have about 10 or 20 reasons, select your top five, the “MUST” haves for you to do this.
2 -What Are Your Real Reasons? Inner Goals vs. Outer Goals
Is your goal for weight loss just to look good to impress other people? Or is it for you to look at yourself in mirror and say, “I love the way I look and I feel great”?
Both are to change your body, but both have very different motivation levels. I can tell you from experience that the latter reason is a much better driver than the first. Remember, if we do it for ourselves, the fire is much bigger than if we strive to do it for someone else’s.
Have you ever suggested to someone that they should quit smoking? How did that go? Not even doctors can tell a patient to quit smoking. At the end of the day, it will be up to that person—and no one else—to finally decide to stop for their own reasons.
My point here is that you must do it for your own reasons. Do it because you want to become a better person, to reach your full potential, to be fit so you can do any outdoor activities you want with ease, to be energetic so you can play with your kids all day long. Those are the reasons that will be the neverending fire that burns to push you through every obstacle along the way. These are your inner game reasons.
Outer game reasons like looking good, fitting into a hot piece of clothing, or impressing someone are good, but they won’t have that lasting power. Trust me, if your sole purpose is to change your body for these outer game reasons, it will be a struggle and you may not make it to the end.
Let me ask you an obvious question. How easy is it to change your body? Not very easy is it? As a matter of fact, it may be one of the toughest things you can do in your lifetime. It requires great motivation, patience, and persistence. I feel that’s why when you achieve this awesome goal, everything else becomes easier.
I mean it. You will ask yourself, “Wow if I can do this, what else I can do?” If you were successful in reaching one goal in the past, then you will likely reach many other goals because you have the experience and discipline to do it. And you can do it again and again as long as you want.
3 -How to Stay Motivated With Your “MUST” WHY’s
Once you have your list of “MUST” reasons, you are ready to attack your goals. This is your wood to the fire to keep you going. It’s not a matter of if, but when. When those tough times come and you feel like quitting, pull out this list and read it over and over until in sinks in and you feel confident.
The “MUST” reasons usually affect you and your loved ones. So having this readily available will give you the boost you really need. Ask yourself, is it acceptable to not only let yourself down but your loved ones as well? I know this may seem like you’re being too hard on yourself; in a way you are, but don’t forget, we are here to get results. It’s not a walk in the park. There are going to be obstacles, hurdles, and holes we have to jump over.
I believe the reason we ask ourselves these “WHY” questions is because we’re interested in whether it is really beneficial for us. We ask ourselves, “What’s in it for me” all the time because it’s built into our DNA for survival purposes.
So we ask ourselves, “Why should I eat things I don’t enjoy very much?” or “Why should I run on the treadmill when I could be watching TV?” or “Why should I go to the gym when I can sleep in?”
The only person who can answer these questions is you. The only person who can do something about it is “You.” This is why we need a very powerful and compelling reason to do things, especially if things are new to us or uncomfortable.
So again, ask yourself…”Why should I lose weight?” Write down all the benefits if you lost 10 pounds, 20 pounds, 30 pounds, or more. What would you do? How would you feel? Imagine it.
Would you feel more confident? Would you have more energy? Would you love life more? Would you feel more excited about the day? Would you feel that you could do anything? Would you give more attention and love to your family?
Losing weight is about making yourself happier inside for you, not for anyone else. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you will get your butt in gear. It’s about you. It’s about loving yourself and giving yourself the attention we all need and deserve. When you are aware of this and accept responsibility for yourself and the way you feel, believe me, things will start to change in an incredible way.
Here’s a dumb question. Why would you want to make yourself feel happier? Have you ever asked yourself this his question? It’s silly I know, but try it. It will actually give you more clarity in terms of your end goal.
Example: I want to feel happier inside so that I can express it on the outside. When I am happy and alive on the outside, I will make others around me feel the same way. That’s clarity! Now the question is, do you want that? I certainly do!
What’s the alternative? Would you rather feel miserable, stressed, just trying to make it through the day? Of course NOT . If you’re reading this book, you definitely don’t want that. You are the kind of person who wants positive change in your life, and you should be proud of that.
Give yourself a pat on the back and say, “I am proud of myself. I am making progress toward creating the life I want, and I know I can do it”. Seriously, I want you to stop reading and really say it, out loud if possible.
Now, how do you feel? Honestly, don’t you feel a terrific positive energy surging through your body? Do you feel that confidence feeling? If not, say it again and again until you do feel it.
Here’s the thing; unlike most people, I don’t want to just make it through the day. I want to live the day to its fullest, enjoy it, and make others feel great just being around me. I know you want this too, and that’s why you’re reading this book.
Or maybe you just wanted to lose some weight. Either way, I don’t care; you’ve stumbled upon this book and it is my duty to help you make your life better than ever before, the best way I know how—through fitness!
When you start to lose weight, you will feel great about yourself. Your brain kicks into high gear and feeds you tons of good thoughts that will boost your confidence. When you have more confidence, you will want to do more things that will make you feel even better about yourself. This is what fitness really gives you.
Yes, the by-product is a sexy, hot body, but more so your mindset steps up another level. You will begin to think more positively about everything because you believe in yourself and others. It’s basically like you’ve been given a new pair glasses for life, and when you look through the lenses, you see how great things really are.
4 – Take Care of Yourself First, then Others
What really matters is why you do it. I do it because I find that being in the gym or just exercising provides the energy, the motivation, the confidence, and the mental toughness I need to tackle other parts of my life.
If I want to be in control of my life, the results I get are deliberate, not by accident. Training yourself day in and day out, you become a disciplined person. Now take that and apply the discipline to other areas of your life and see what happens.
If you’ve gotten this far, I know you’re serious about making a change in your life, and that starts with your physical fitness. If you’ve ever traveled by airplane, you’ve probably heard of the flight attendant going over the safety procedures just before the airplane takes off. Do you recall when he announces that when the air mask drops from above, make sure you put it on yourself first before you put it on your children?
This makes perfect sense, doesn’t it? You’re no good to anyone if you’re dead, right? I know this is a bit strong, but this is reality. You must take care of yourself, your body, your mind, and your spirit first. Then you have the right to take care of others.
Don’t for a second think that you’re being selfish when you think about taking care of yourself first and trying to improve yourself to become a better person.
From my own experience, I can tell you that when you try to improve yourself and become better, some people, including your own family members, will not understand and will say things to stop you.
“Why do you need to lose weight?” “Who are you trying to impress?” “This is not important; making money is.” Don’t listen to that crap, even if it’s from your own family. Remove yourself from situations like this and listen only to your inner voice. Hear only that voice guiding you in the right direction for you.
You know what you’re doing. You have a list of reasons why you’re transforming yourself…it’s so you can better yourself and give more to others. Like motivation, positive energy, and support. Please tell me how this is selfish.
I say this because I’ve been called out before. Expect it and accept it, but don’t give it any power. Leave it with the clouds and continue to pursue the body you want so you can have a better life.
To end this chapter, let’s go over some of the items on which to take action:
1. Write down on a piece of paper as many reasons as you can for why you want to lose weight. For you and for others. Write at least 10 reasons.
2. Keep it with you and read it every day before you start your day. Read it at night too, if you can.
3. Share your goals with your loved ones and ask for their support.
Do this now before moving on to the next chapter. Pick one item and do it now, then plan to do the others the following day.