1 – Positive Mental Attitude vs. Negative Mental Attitude
So what does mindset have to do with losing weight? For me, this is everything. Your mindset will determine your outcome. Meaning if you think you can do it, you will. The same is also true if you think you cannot. Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you are right.”
In chapter one you came up with all the reasons why you need to change your body. You wrote them down so you can use them as gasoline for your motivation. It will give you that push you need to break through any kind of barriers and self-limiting thoughts.
Did you know that as humans, we natural revert to negative thinking most of the time if we don’t make ourselves think positively? I’ve certainly noticed this throughout my transformation. Unfortunately, we are just wired that way, but fortunately we can do something about that.
We can simply replace our negative thoughts with positive ones and keep focusing on them. When you do that, the negative thoughts will disappear because our minds can hold only one thought at a time.
Positive mental attitude is important because we need this driving force to get us to the end of our goal. Negative thoughts will cloud us and put a stop to our journey if we don’t replace them with positive thoughts. When we are in a negative mindset, we lose our drive and motivation to keep going. Thoughts like ‘It’s too hard,’ ‘Why am I wasting my time?’ and ‘This is really not that important,’ will start to populate your mind.
You must eliminate these thoughts by concentrating on positive thoughts for a period of time. Focus on what you want, the end goal. You need to motivate yourself by repeating motivating and encouraging words every day. Read your affirmations.
It’s challenging to force your mind to think positive thoughts all the time, but if you can keep doing it, soon you will create a new habit of thinking. And that habit will stay with you for life.
2 – Standards and Beliefs
Now we need to ask ourselves one of the most important questions in this journey. Can I do this? What’s your answer? I hope it is, “Hell, yeah I can!”
First you MUST believe you can do it. You must have an unwavering belief that you can do it. If you believe you can do it, you will find a way, and things in the universe will align to help you get there. It is so important that you believe you can do it and be convinced that you will get to the end of your goal because if you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Certainly not your neighbour or anyone else.
Here’s a good tip to use to help with your belief. Ask yourself, do you know anyone or have you ever heard of anyone who has lost 10 pounds, 20 pounds, 30 pounds? Do you?
The answer to this question is OF COURSE! There are lots of people today who have been able to lose 10, 20, 50 pounds or more. This is a fact. If they can do it, why can’t you? They’re not better than you are, they’re not smarter than you are. Then what is stopping you?
The only thing that can stop you is yourself. Your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs will destroy your dreams and goals. Don’t ever let this happen. Harbour only positive thoughts that you can do it and you will find a way, no matter what. When you dwell on supportive thoughts like this, your mind won’t have space for the negative ones to come in.
This takes a lot of practice, but you can do it. Again, what’s the alternative? An unfulfilled life, a life of regret that you did not go for it, a life of less than what you deserve. Is this acceptable to you? I hope not.
To help drill the positive beliefs into your head and body, write down five declaration statements to help you. Look at them every morning and night to keep you going.
Here are some examples:
1. I can do anything I put my mind to.
2. If they can do it, so can I.
3. I have unlimited potential.
4. I am committed to achieving my goals no matter what.
5. I refuse to stop and nothing can stop me.
6. I will get up every time I fall.
7. I will never give up.
8. Failure is not an option.
9. I will never fail because I will never stop trying.
10. I have all the resources I need to succeed.
3 -Begin With the End in Mind
Ask yourself what it is you really want. Be very clear and write down what you want; the path to get there will start to unfold for you. You will notice things you would never have noticed before—all the things that will help you reach your end goal. That is how awesome our minds are.
In chapter one, we wrote down why we wanted to lose weight. Now we need to know what exactly it is that we want, the details.
1. What is your ideal weight?
2. What is the fitness level you want?
3. Do you want an athletic build, lean and strong?
4. Do you want a marathon runner’s build? Slender, agile, incredible endurance.
5. Do you want a bodybuilder’s physique? Muscular and strong.
You must be absolutely clear on what king of physique you want because the path to get there is slightly different for every goal. How do you decide which body type you want? Allow me to share my experience. For me, it was about bettering myself so that I can do what I really enjoy doing. I enjoy being in the gym and lifting weights.
I enjoy working out like a bodybuilder. I enjoy making progress in the amount of weight I can lift. On the flip side, I also enjoy activities like hiking, playing tennis, taking part in any kind of sports, and running.
So for me it was about combining bodybuilding with the outdoors. I want a physique that can lift weights but also be very functional in doing activities about which I’m passionate. The body type I aimed for was Men’s Physique or the Fitness Model Look. This body type is fairly muscular, but not so big that you’re bulky and can’t fit into regular clothing.
You’re very functional and agile. You’re strong enough to lift some good weights and can breeze through the outdoor activities without a sweat. You look good in a suit but underneath you’re an anatomy chart.
I find this body type works for me. So now that you know how I did it, spend a few minutes writing down what body type you want. Again, be as specific as you can. This will be your goal going forward. One thing I want you to make note of is that this goal is not cemented. By this I mean your goals may change as you progress in this path, and that’s totally OK.
My initial goal was to get fit so I could do other things with ease. I never thought in a million years that I would want to compete in bodybuilding. Goals change because we become someone different, someone better than the person we were when we started.
Just remember, you are free to change your mind, your goals.
Caution: Just don’t do it because it is easier…never do this. I mean it. An easy path is a path not worth taking.
OK, now we know what we want in detail. We have a clear focus. How do we get there? In the next chapter I will share with you all the fundamentals of losing weight and the strategies to help you get there. All I need from you is the commitment to take action. Deal?